Massage, Magic, and The Millennial

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Hey everybody, welcome back.
I'm Mel and I'm Claire, and we

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are coming at you from the
middle of the Morador corridor.

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Norador no Mordor.
Anyway, we're the salty host.

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Hi, how are you?
Well, here I am showing up with

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my reduced brain capacity.
Against Nah.

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We're just always making it
awkward, keeping it awkward,

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keeping it real.
It's my specialty.

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Me too.
Very good.

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Yeah, we got skills.
Well, it's a family trait.

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Yeah.
I need to tell you sometime

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about some family anecdotes.
Keeping it awkward.

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But for now, let's move into our
episode.

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But.
How was your week?

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My week, yeah.
Oh God, my week.

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I it it, it's actually fine.
It's been good busy.

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You know, I sometimes you're
like, you're so tired and you're

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like, what is this life?
And then other weeks you're

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like, damn it, I love that shit.
I'm killing it, yeah.

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Yeah, so it's kind of like that
I, I feel like I'm having like

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some hair issues this week, Like
my hair has gone gigantically

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big.
Your hair looks fantastic.

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Well.
You're so nice, but it's a

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little out of control I.
Don't know a.

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Little gloss or something in
there, it's like.

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How you make it so fantastically
curly all the time.

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Oh, you're.
So nice.

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Well, probably because it's a
dry, fuzzy mess and so.

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Doesn't look fuzzy to me.
It's like, what was that film?

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Fuzzy Wuzzy was a woman, that
is.

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That's the vibe I'm putting out
today.

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Richard Pryor.
What was that movie?

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I don't know that movie.
Yeah, I got a It was like Gene

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Hackman and Richard Pryor.
Fuzzy Wuzzy was a woman.

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Amazing.
Best film line of all time.

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My sister and I used to say it
all the time and it would really

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piss my mom off.
Well, you look gorgeous.

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Well, thank.
You How was your week?

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It was good, it was fine.
Just keeping on, keeping on.

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Yeah, I did rewatch the Alex
Honnold skyscraper live.

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Did you watch that when it came?
Out I haven't watched it yet.

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It's definitely want to and I've
seen some pictures and it's like

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holy shit.
Like, you know, he's OK, but

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like the terror.
Is real believable?

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Yeah, it really is.
I was.

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I mean, both times I watched it
I was just absolutely terrified

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for him, palm sweating the whole
thing.

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And you knew the outcome.
I knew the outcome.

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It was wild.
I mean, it was similar to when I

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watched Free Solo, which was his
documentary movie.

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Remember that.
Yeah.

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So good.
I mean, I had.

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Not only did I know he had
survived that.

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Yeah, I'd actually seen him at
the climbing gym.

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Oh my God, here in.
Utah the week before it came

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out.
Wow.

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Yeah, he lives in Vegas, but
every now and then he'll come to

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Utah for a comp or for whatever.
And I had seen Hello.

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Yeah.
At Momentum Mill Creek, Like he

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had a little cluster of like
fans, like I wanted to I go

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fangirl too, but that's not
really my vibe.

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So I didn't you know, I just
looked from afar, so I knew, you

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know, I knew I saw him with my
own eyes right and still, that

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movie was so terrifying.
Wow, but in a good.

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Way you're like I have proof of
life like I know.

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He lives, yes, and still and yet
absolutely unbelievable I.

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Think I saw that in the movie
theater with you.

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Did I?
Maybe.

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I think so.
All those years ago.

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Yeah, it was.
It was a minute ago.

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Is he tall?
He's, I think he's a little over

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6 feet as I remember.
OK, maybe not quite that tall.

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I don't know.
I would have to look it up

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actually.
Yeah.

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Weird.
Question.

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I mean, people don't typically
just be like, is he tall?

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But yeah, that's cool you saw
him in real.

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Life.
Yeah, I've seen him a couple of

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times.
That's awesome.

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He's he's really cool.
And something that's really

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impressive about him from
climbing his V tar is on the top

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of the tar.
What was he doing now?

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He was texting.
Wow.

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Probably his wife.
Yeah.

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Say, hey, babe, I made it.
So what is the moral of this

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story?
Yeah.

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Take notes man.
Yeah, if a man ever.

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Tells you he's too busy to text
you.

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Don't believe him?
Just show him that picture.

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That's right.
You just scaled a tar.

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Yeah.
If Alex Honnold can text from

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the top of Taipei 101, then he
could text you back.

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Exactly.
So we won't take anything less

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moving forward.
Thank you, Alex.

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Thanks, Alex.
We.

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Love your service?
Well, today we thought it would

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be fun just to, I don't know, go
a little freestyle, talk about

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some fun dating stories.
What do you think?

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Yeah, I might.
You know, I think we need to

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share positive stories too.
Like we have lots of fun with

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sort of the dating disasters.
But like, have you ever had like

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a first date or just a date
where you were like, damn, that

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was magic.
Yeah, I have had a couple.

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I think I've already mentioned
high rise, so I won't mention

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him again.
That was a magical first date,

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five hours of conversation.
That was really great.

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That's very cool.
Yeah, but, and I don't know how

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many magical first dates I've
had, but I've had some good. 1st

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dates.
Magical's a big word.

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I'm being a.
Lot of hyperbolic.

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That's pressure.
So let's just say good, good.

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We'll go with good.
Sure, give us a good first date.

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OK, I'm sure I'll give you a
good first date.

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Actually it was 2 good dates.
So I had a first and a second

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date with this person and I
don't want to share his real

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name so let's see.
Make one up like make one up

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exactly.
What do we call this?

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Guy.
I think we're going to call this

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guy Eddie.
How about that Eddie?

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Eddie, right?
Yeah.

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Eddie is a professional.
He's got a good job.

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Oh.
Yeah.

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Where'd you find him?
Well, you know, honestly, I feel

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like I find several of those, I
feel like the universe is

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actually trying to send me a
physician or a lawyer, but they

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always end up being quite
disappointing and.

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I just get the entrepreneurs so.
Yeah, that's right.

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You mean the broke homosexuals?
Yes, the homosexuals.

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Right.
Yeah, so Eddie and I had coffee

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on our first date and it was
lovely, actually.

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It was a great conversation.
We got a little deep, like, not

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too inappropriately deep, but
you know what I mean?

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I feel like we had a connection.
It was connected deep.

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Yeah.
It was nice.

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It was about an hour, which I
feel like is great for a first

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date.
Good first date vibes.

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He did buy my coffee 9.
I know Eddie.

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Claire's like, what is this
world like?

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Swoon.
I feel verklempt.

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Wow.
Yeah, yeah.

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So that was great.
And then I met up with Eddie

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again about a week later.
Yeah.

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And it was another good date.
So he actually.

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Get this, Claire, get this.
I know this is gonna just sound

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wild to.
You.

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Oh my God, I'm gripped.
What?

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But.
He planned a date.

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Dear God.
He asked for input and then made

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a plan.
So like so, he inquired as to

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your desires and then
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Yes, he actually gave me three
options.

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He's like, I was thinking of
these three restaurants, which

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one sounds better to you?
So like, here's the thing.

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He he just find the sweet spot
because he got your input, he

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gave you choices, but he wasn't
like Heinz 57.

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Right.
It wasn't like, oh, what do you?

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Want to do this choice or this
choice of that?

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Yeah.
Yeah, it was just here's three

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options.
Pick one.

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Perfectly executed Eddie High
five.

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Yeah, love it.
Yeah.

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So we went to dinner and it was
nice again.

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We had a great conversation.
It seemed like we were really

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hitting it off etcetera.
But I will say that on neither

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of these dates did things get
flirty or romantic whatsoever.

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Like so there was no kisses.
No, no, no, kid.

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Well, maybe like a a very chaste
hug, you know what I mean?

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Like the very, like the same
kind of hug you might give a

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friend of the opposite gender or
the same gender.

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Yeah, right.
Just a little friendly hug.

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Little greet.
Yeah, yeah, but 0 flirting and

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this is actually gonna be
important to this the third

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date.
OK.

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Yeah.
So.

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You could just see there being a
gentleman.

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Or whatever.
And I think that's that's fine,

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right?
It's lovely.

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It's second year over dinner.
You'd expect like, a little.

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Yeah, A.
Little a little like maybe brush

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of the hand.
Something like that or maybe a

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compliment or two.
Even if like it doesn't get

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physical which is fine because
you.

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Like, you looked hot.
Oh, I did look hot, Yeah.

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I had it going on.
Dude, acknowledge that.

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Please for the love of God.
Right.

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I did my hair and everything.
Yeah.

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So yeah.
So really no flirting, no

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compliments, but I was like, you
know what, I like the sky.

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We've had a couple of great
conversations.

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I'm willing to go on 1/3 date.
Maybe the spark will arise cuz

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sometimes it takes a minute
right?

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Six will be a minute.
Yeah, and he's not unattractive.

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So I was like, all right, so 1/3
date, OK.

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And we had to, like, pause a
couple of weeks because he was

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traveling.
I was traveling.

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So there was a little space,
right Between date 2 and date

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three.
There was a little bit of

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texting, not too much.
Yeah.

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Once again, none of the texting
was flirty at all.

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Yeah.
It's just very like, hey, how

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are you doing?
What's going on?

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Like just friendly, casual, not
flirty, not hot and heavy, No

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sexting, no Dick pics, not even
really a compliment, Right?

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Which is sometimes you're like
that.

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That's OK, especially right at
the start.

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I mean, you like a wee bit of
flirt or a tease, but you know

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you also don't want a deluge of
Dick pics either.

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Right.
Like a little flirting would be

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nice.
But it was it was OK.

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It was fine, you know?
So third date, he says, why

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don't I pick you up at your
house and we'll, you know, get a

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drink and you can tell me about,
you know, the last couple weeks.

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Well.
That sounds lovely right?

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And a pick up at sea if like you
feel safe at this point.

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Right.
We've met twice in public places

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now.
I feel OK giving him my address,

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right?
Like he, he is who he says he

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is.
I like a Weegee at pickup.

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I think it's kind of cute.
Too So.

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Right.
So he comes to my house and at

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the time he said he was going to
come and gets to the door and I

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was like, hey, you know, where
are we going?

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And he was like, oh, I didn't
really make a plan.

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Yeah.
And he was like, I know, right?

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You're all dude the second date.
Vibes.

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Where did they go?
Yeah, right.

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I thought we were going to go
get a, a drink, right And he's

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like, well, sometimes bars are
kind of loud.

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He's like, so maybe I don't
know, we could go to the liquor

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store, get a bottle of wine and
then go to my house.

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And I was like, you know, I'm
already like, I don't love this.

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It's.
Starting to feel a little

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suspicious.
It is because the the plans

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changed right prior warning and
also yes, I mean, yeah.

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I don't love this, right?
I didn't love it either, but at

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this point he's already on my
doorstep, right?

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And I was tired, to be honest.
Like, I'd been traveling.

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Like, I had a lot of social
stuff catching up with people.

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I was kind of exhausted.
And I was like, I don't want to

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get in your car.
Yeah, go to the liquor store,

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then go to another location.
Like you don't even have a

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bottle of wine at your house.
Like that's that's is that a

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red?
Flag, It's a little red

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flagging, right?
I don't know, I mean.

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At the liquor store in Utah is
an ordeal.

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Yeah, it's.
Not like running into Trader

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Joe's getting a bag of chips in
a ball of.

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Oil.
Well, it's just not like, fun or

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romantic or like anything.
So yeah, I was like, OK, well,

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why don't you just come in,
We'll have a drink and, you

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know, we can chat for a minute.
Yeah.

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He was, like, perfect.
Yeah.

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It's like OK.
All righty.

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Yeah, the lease is on your turf.
Right.

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Yeah.
And I'm like, this way at least

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it will be shorter.
It's like, this isn't really

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going to be great, right?
Yeah.

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So he comes in, I pour a couple
glasses of wine.

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He sits on the couch.
I sit on the couch.

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We're not touching once again.
Yeah, nothing like that.

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And he, we were talking about
various things maybe for 30

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minutes or so.
Yeah.

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And then he was like, well, what
did you do today?

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And I was like, well, I went to
the gym.

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And, you know, I haven't been in
a couple of weeks, so I feel

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like I'm probably going to be
sore.

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Yeah.
Normal, right?

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I think it's.
Just you.

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You told me.
We both shared.

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Actually, this morning I had
sore legs.

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You had sore shoulders.
That's right.

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It's just a share, right?
It's a human thing.

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And I, I, I wasn't even like, I
am sore.

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I said I feel like tomorrow I'm
going to be sore because it's

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been a couple weeks.
Anticipatory sore.

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Exactly.
Yeah.

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And he goes, you know what?
Can I be like, really vulnerable

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with you right now?
What is he going to say?

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I know, and I was like, sure.
Like that feels confessional.

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It it does, and you know I like
a man who can open up and be

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vulnerable, but it seemed like a
non sequitur when I had just

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said something about the gym,
right?

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But still, did this come from,
like, were you in a fire at a

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gym one time?
Did you invest in a gym and it

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when are you busy?
Like, yeah, where is this going?

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Sure.
I didn't know.

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I was like, maybe this is
related or maybe he's changing

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the subject or something.
So he's like, can I just be

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really vulnerable with you right
now?

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And I was like, sure you can
this little bird, sure you can

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be vulnerable with me.
And he was like, well, why don't

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you just come over here and I'll
give you a massage?

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Wow.
Well, that went from zero to 60.

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Yeah.
So like, this is just a recap.

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A man who didn't flirt.
No flirting.

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There's not even been like a
weak kiss on the cheek.

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Nope.
Not a brush of the hand.

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Nope.
And it goes from.

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How is that even vulnerable?
It's not.

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It's not.
Yeah, it was a very awkward

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segue to put his hands on my
body.

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On your naked body?
On my body, yeah, as well.

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I mean, I know he didn't specify
that, but when you hear massage,

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you're not gonna.
Yeah, the subtext was like, take

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your shirt off, right?
Cuz I.

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Am.
Yeah.

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And I was like, you know what?
I'm all good.

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Wow.
No, thank you.

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Oh my God, how did he respond
when you turned on such a

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delectable?
Offer.

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I mean, he was clearly upset.
Yeah, not happy.

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That's like ick right there.
Yeah.

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And then there was a couple more
uncomfortable moments and then I

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was like, well, I think I'm
gonna take off.

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I was like, great.
OK, bye bye.

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Don't forget your coat.
Yeah.

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Don't let the door hit you on
the way.

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I like Oh my God.
So I'm sorry, that was supposed

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to be a positive story, wasn't?
It I mean it started it.

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Started kind of positive, yeah,
I guess that was just a recent

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occurrence.
So I mean, not that recent like

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a couple months ago, but
recentish, yeah, in my dating

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world.
And you had two wonderful

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moments.
Yeah, well, early.

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From the positive.
At least OK, Yeah.

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World's OK Estate.
Yeah, that could that could get

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a wee rosette.
Yeah, right.

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In world's most OK date.
You know, sometimes we'll settle

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for that and call it a win.
Yeah.

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You know, I thought it was a win
until that awkward, weird

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vulnerable massage moment.
Vulnerable massage, maybe like

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some some massage places,
Wellness places should put that

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on their menu, not their menu
like their offerings.

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Yeah, you can say bold massage a
folder of a massage like

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whatever.
Like, do you talk about your

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pain and your like parental
wounds during that massage?

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I don't like it at all.
I don't like it.

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Yeah.
All right.

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Well, sorry, that kind of went,
you know, down the shitter.

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Why don't you tell me one of
your dating stories?

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Positive.
Keep it real negative.

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Whatever.
Just share with me well.

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You know, cuz yeah, when you
think about them, you're like,

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God, that was magical.
But then usually it goes tits up

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and you're like.
Well, I love that oppression.

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I love it.
Well, this, this story does

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actually meet that criteria.
So, you know, I'm gonna, I'm

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gonna be bold here and I, I am
going to say that this first, it

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was actually quite magical.
Oh I love.

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It and I think it was a lot of
factors, OK, Like it maybe just

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wasn't the deed, it was the
place of circumstance and I was

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just kind of feeling it.
Yeah, life generally, you

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Knights are like that.
And you're just in a good vibe.

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And you're like, this is a good
vibe.

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So this one is interesting.
So we'll call this person the

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Millennial.
The millennial.

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Because they were.
In fact, I like it, a

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millennial.
Those.

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Millennials and you know, you
know me.

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I do.
I don't tend to go young.

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Nope.
And I I did feel a little weird

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about it initially.
He wasn't that much younger

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though, right?
No, like not even a full decade.

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Oh, that's fine.
I know, but I I just, it's just

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not my thing.
Mr. Levin is a full decade

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younger than me.
He's a millennial.

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Well.
Oh, cool, yeah, I did.

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I don't think I ever like
registered that consciously

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before And see, that feels fine
to me, but I don't know, I just

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felt some like because it's me.
Well, just well, not because

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it's you as in, oh, that's
that's Mel.

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She goes for the young cougar
minds.

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But just like it's one of those
things like when you look at it

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for others, you're like, yeah,
that's reasonable.

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But then you feel funny about it
yourself.

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I don't know.
I think it's just like typically

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always like.
Older dudes, you know, that's

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fair.
OK, so the millennial.

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So this was actually one of like
the sun, the Sundance sitches.

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Where?
Well, and he wasn't actually

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here for Sundance.
Just in my sprawling brain, I

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always have to draw in some
random comparisons that actually

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don't make sense.
But.

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No, that makes sense.
Well, I saw him on the app and

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was like, you're not from Utah.
Like I didn't even have to

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Scroll down.
Right, similar to what we see

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during Sundance.
Out of China, right?

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And actually, I tell a lie.
It was Sundance.

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And I said, oh, are you here for
Sundance?

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Turns out dude was a planner.
He was a planner.

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So beautiful intersection here.
So he was like, oh, I was like,

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are you here for Sundance?
And he said, I'm not actually

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here here as in Utah yet, but
I'm coming to ski in a couple of

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weeks.
And turns out he was from New

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York, but.
He was already pre lining up.

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He was.
Yes.

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A little effort, yeah.
He's like going to be in Salt

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Lake City.
What are the Utah girlies like?

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Let's you know.
You know, I don't mind that at

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all.
Yeah, and I actually did make it

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very clear.
I was like, so are you like,

401
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looking for hookups in Utah?
Because that's not my vibe.

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Yeah.
Like that.

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It's just.
And that.

404
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Yeah, I just.
I don't need to apologize that

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that just was not my vibe.
That's fine.

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And he was like, he's like,
yeah, that's cool.

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He's like, I'm all for hookup,
but also just for a fun diet.

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I, you know, and I was like, OK,
cool.

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But this is where the magic part
starts.

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Here we go.
So Are you ready?

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I'm ready.
I'm buckled up.

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I'm actually holding the head to
my chair literally right now,

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gripped.
Yeah, and you're like, oh God,

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Claire's magic bar is quite low.
But no, honestly, you know, it

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was because here's the thing,
like we don't travel much in our

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jobs, right?
It's not like a a travel centric

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kind of occupation that we have.
No.

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I mean the odd thing, but.
One conference a year, maybe.

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Right, I had this weird and
wonderful like 6 week period

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where I had like three things in
a row and even like stranger

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like I didn't have to to pay or
fund any of them.

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I remember that time.
Actually.

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I remember because I was period.
Yeah, I was so happy for you.

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But also like, we were trying to
get together for brunch and I

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was like, oh, I guess I'm not
seeing my Wii Claire for a

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couple.
Months because it was it was

427
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like back-to-back and and like
one of them I still don't even

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know a how they find me and B
why they wanted to pay for me to

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come on this slush trip.
But anyway it happened.

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It was wonderful.
So turns like he's from New York

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City.
I am going to New York City the

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next week.
Amazing.

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And I'm still in New York.
He leaves for Utah and then I

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come back like the next day to
Utah.

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So you're like, Oh my God, is
this kismet like?

436
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Yeah, it's just cool.
And also it can be a fun little

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fling without being a hookup,
right?

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Yes, that's different.
It is a different vibe and at

439
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the time I was not in any way,
shape or form looking for a

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serious situation.
I had had a a year off, a very

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intentional year off dating.
I was just stepping my toe back

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in the pool as you do.
And he was a wee millennial.

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So I was like, OK, like this is
not a long term prospect.

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This is fun and and look at this
Greek kismet like.

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It wasn't like Oh my God the
universe has manifest my

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soulmate.
It was just like this is kismet.

447
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This could be so fun.
Yeah, the stars have a line for

448
00:20:25,680 --> 00:20:28,320
me to have a nice little fling.
Exactly that.

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That was the vibes going into
it.

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So next week I'm in New York,
but I'm I'm just feeling the

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vibes, you know, New York.
I feel happy.

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It's like good part of this
trip.

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Oh wait, what?
Was the oh, I'm sorry.

454
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Oh, no, this is just a
distraction.

455
00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:45,520
I'm.
I'm channeling you right now,

456
00:20:45,520 --> 00:20:47,480
OK?
This was the New York trip where

457
00:20:47,520 --> 00:20:49,760
you you saw my son right on a
school.

458
00:20:50,360 --> 00:20:54,760
Kid yeah I love these
connections amazing I so.

459
00:20:54,840 --> 00:20:58,560
Cute Claire sent me the cutest
picture of her and my son, a

460
00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:00,320
cute little selfie from the
hotel.

461
00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:04,480
It made me so happy.
And can I just say what a cool

462
00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:07,560
and amazing kid that you have?
Because I was like, Oh my God,

463
00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:12,120
hi, like this like crazy lady.
And he's a teen and, you know,

464
00:21:12,560 --> 00:21:15,680
he's so cute and cool.
And I was like, your moms gonna

465
00:21:15,680 --> 00:21:17,840
be so glad that I saw you.
Can we do a selfie?

466
00:21:17,840 --> 00:21:20,200
And he was like, yes, he's just
such a good.

467
00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:22,720
Kid, he loves you too though.
He's a sweetheart.

468
00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:26,560
He is such you can conversate
with this kid like good kid.

469
00:21:26,720 --> 00:21:30,000
I'm sorry to interrupt, I just
got so I loved that I remember

470
00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:32,200
this trip.
I'm all about the connections.

471
00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:33,400
I love it.
OK, please go on.

472
00:21:33,440 --> 00:21:34,880
Sorry.
So yeah, it was like a very cool

473
00:21:34,880 --> 00:21:38,280
trip.
It involved going to like the

474
00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:41,160
UNA couple of times, like I was
living my best life.

475
00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:43,600
Amazing.
Because my nerdy self, it was

476
00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:46,440
like what?
And I got into like this little

477
00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:49,720
routine and I'd walk from my
hotel, just just walking up to

478
00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:53,360
the UN and I'd find a little
coffee shop and everything.

479
00:21:53,360 --> 00:21:55,560
And I was just like, I am living
my best life.

480
00:21:55,560 --> 00:21:57,160
So fun.
This is so good.

481
00:21:57,160 --> 00:21:58,760
So you see where the magic comes
in.

482
00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:00,640
Absolutely it's.
Just like a good vibes.

483
00:22:00,640 --> 00:22:02,560
Time stage was set for magic
this.

484
00:22:02,560 --> 00:22:05,760
Stage was set.
So I take a little selfie I

485
00:22:05,760 --> 00:22:09,320
might get in food, like first
night in there and I'm like, you

486
00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:12,280
know, I'm in your time or your
neck of the woods or whatever.

487
00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:15,800
And he was so fun.
He texts back and he's like, Oh

488
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:17,800
my God.
And like always little

489
00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:20,560
compliments.
But you know, you look beautiful

490
00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:24,080
or just just like snappy, shall
we say?

491
00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:27,080
Like Snappy?
Texts like good banter, just

492
00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:29,920
good banter, cute, fun I.
Felt like too far.

493
00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:31,320
Just sweet.
Love it.

494
00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:35,920
And so he was like, wait, what
are you doing tomorrow night?

495
00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:38,440
And I was like, nothing.
You.

496
00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:39,600
I'm free.
Yeah.

497
00:22:41,440 --> 00:22:44,080
And he's like, well, I actually
have to fly to Utah really,

498
00:22:44,080 --> 00:22:47,200
really early the next morning,
but if you promise to send me

499
00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:49,080
home early, like, let's grab a
drink.

500
00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:53,160
And I was like, yes, yes, that
sounds amazing.

501
00:22:53,480 --> 00:22:56,200
So go do all the work in the
day.

502
00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:59,520
And again, lovely texting back
and forth.

503
00:22:59,520 --> 00:23:03,680
He's like, because I was in a
touristy part, I don't love that

504
00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:07,840
he was not in a touristy part.
And he's like high confident.

505
00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:10,600
Would you feel about like taking
transport?

506
00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:15,400
And I was like 100% like, I've
been to New York many times,

507
00:23:15,520 --> 00:23:16,640
like.
No big deal.

508
00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:21,040
Happily take the subway and you
know I grew up in Belfast.

509
00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:25,160
I don't scare easily right?
Like it always sidebar makes me

510
00:23:25,160 --> 00:23:26,520
laugh.
In Utah, people are like you

511
00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:30,320
walked a block at night or.
You took the tracks and it's

512
00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:32,720
like you drove to West.
Valley, right and you're just.

513
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:34,960
Like you're like, well, last
time I checked there were no car

514
00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:36,680
bombs there.
Oh my God, Yeah.

515
00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:39,280
You're like, I think, I think
we're all going to be OK.

516
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:42,360
Yeah.
So I was like, yes, 100%.

517
00:23:42,360 --> 00:23:44,680
Like, I love a wee adventure.
Tell me where to meet you.

518
00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:49,280
So he gives me directions.
What tree and tree and twin twin

519
00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:52,000
watch public transportation to
get on.

520
00:23:52,360 --> 00:23:55,760
And again, I'm just on the train
in New York.

521
00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:58,160
Like, I love that.
I know some people aren't into

522
00:23:58,160 --> 00:23:59,480
big cities.
I love it me.

523
00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:00,680
Too.
I love all the.

524
00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:03,000
Strangeness that you see and
just you know.

525
00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:03,840
So fun.
It's.

526
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:06,800
So fun.
So I meet him at this cute

527
00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:08,720
little bar.
It's called the Immigrant.

528
00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:11,000
I was like, thank you.
Thank you.

529
00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:14,760
I don't think he made that
connection, but cute little

530
00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:18,280
Bart, like so cute.
I got there first.

531
00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:22,040
He walks in and you know one of
those dates, it doesn't happen

532
00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:25,160
often where you don't even have
to speak, but you're just like,

533
00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:30,480
like you hear the angels sing.
Immediate attraction, immediate

534
00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:31,800
connection.
Just like.

535
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:34,000
Yeah, there's just a vibe.
You're vibing.

536
00:24:34,120 --> 00:24:37,960
We're vibing and it felt mutual,
which was even better.

537
00:24:38,120 --> 00:24:41,520
Yeah, that is magical.
So your bar is not low for

538
00:24:41,520 --> 00:24:42,600
magic.
This is magical.

539
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:43,560
It was.
Real and it.

540
00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:45,600
Gets better.
Yeah, I can't wait.

541
00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:50,040
So he walks in, we have a hug.
It's just a lovely hug.

542
00:24:50,360 --> 00:24:54,880
We sit up at the bar.
It's very like dim light, like

543
00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:56,520
it's just so perfect dim
lighting.

544
00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:59,320
I love that very lovely.
I love sitting at the bar too,

545
00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:01,720
by the way, That's my favorite.
It was so fun.

546
00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:05,080
So we're we're already like
chatty, chatty.

547
00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:07,400
And then we're like, okay, we
need to pause and order drinks.

548
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:09,040
Let's let's get a drink, a
drink.

549
00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:12,520
We both love Chin.
We're we're having our we drinks

550
00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:16,480
and like even the body language
without even realizing.

551
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:20,520
We're both like directly facing
each other, like knees touching

552
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:24,560
and just like one of those times
where you can't get enough

553
00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:26,760
conversation.
Yes, like it's flowing.

554
00:25:27,120 --> 00:25:29,600
I love it.
Back and forth and get this,

555
00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:32,560
you're going to die.
I can't wait, He asked

556
00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:36,480
questions.
What I know?

557
00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:40,560
Where did you find this man?
Oh, it's a wind swoon.

558
00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:44,080
So yeah, like he would even.
I would ask him stuff and he'd

559
00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:47,120
be telling me and then he'd be
like, OK, but wait, wait, what

560
00:25:47,120 --> 00:25:47,680
about you?
I'm.

561
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:50,840
Like, Oh my God.
Is this what the millennials are

562
00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:52,440
like?
Like, is this a generational

563
00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:54,640
thing?
I didn't know, but it was, it

564
00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:57,320
was amazing.
It was very, very, very lovely.

565
00:25:57,680 --> 00:26:01,880
So I was like, OK, I was given
very clear orders that I need to

566
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:04,080
send you home early.
You have to leave at like 6:00

567
00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:06,520
AM tomorrow.
And he was like, no, but I'm not

568
00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:08,960
ready to go home.
And it was so cute.

569
00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:11,800
Like, so he's like, well, let's
go to another bar.

570
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:15,960
So second location, second
location, you really are vibing,

571
00:26:16,040 --> 00:26:18,040
right?
And it was just, it was just so

572
00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:20,560
fun.
So it we went to one.

573
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:22,200
What was it called?
It was something to do with

574
00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:24,280
Jonathan Swift.
It was called like, like the

575
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:27,360
Gulliver's Travels or Swift.
It was, it was like more

576
00:26:27,360 --> 00:26:30,400
esoteric because he said it.
And I was like, is that like

577
00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:33,640
Jonathan Swift?
And he was like, I don't think

578
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:34,440
so.
We got there.

579
00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:38,160
And sure enough, it was so it
was cool got there.

580
00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:40,960
I met an Irish bar man that was
so fun.

581
00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:43,800
We were talking about kneecap
and our Irish music.

582
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:46,240
And I was just like, life is
good.

583
00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:48,720
Yeah.
You know, it was just kind of a

584
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:51,080
magical evening for so, so many
reasons.

585
00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:53,240
Yeah, what a great night.
So we're at the back, we're

586
00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:59,480
standing at like this weed bar
thing, and the lip balm comes

587
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:02,240
out.
The lip balm.

588
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:05,080
I'm like oh God the lip balm on
alert.

589
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:07,320
Yep.
Getting ready, smooching's gonna

590
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:09,600
happen.
Prepping to put some sweet lip

591
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:11,280
balm.
And he's like, do you want some?

592
00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:13,920
And I was like, Oh yeah, I'll,
I'll not say no to that.

593
00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:20,040
So Lube it up baby, Lube it up.
So we finish up at the bar, we

594
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:24,520
walk to the Wii subway cuz we're
on the CM tree and going

595
00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:27,720
different directions.
It's like a movie.

596
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:31,400
It was like a Wii movie.
So we get to the top of the

597
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:36,400
stairs and I definitely felt a
little tipsy because I remember

598
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:39,000
saying can I take your arm?
But it was literally because I

599
00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:42,720
felt like I might fall over.
I wasn't really trying to flirt.

600
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:44,720
I was just like I need some
assistance.

601
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:45,600
That's.
Cute.

602
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:48,000
But so yeah, we got to the top.
I mean, I wasn't like

603
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:50,120
staggering, but it was just.
It was just nice.

604
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:51,440
Yeah, you know, when you feel
like.

605
00:27:51,480 --> 00:27:53,280
Like a happy little goosey
goosey.

606
00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:54,320
Yeah, happy.
Little Buzz.

607
00:27:54,520 --> 00:27:58,920
Yeah, it was good.
So we got to the top and you

608
00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:00,960
know, we're both like, oh, that
was such a good night.

609
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:04,520
And it really was just so fun.
Like, look at me, I'm beaming.

610
00:28:04,520 --> 00:28:10,840
Even telling you about our.
So we we said our goodbyes and

611
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:14,240
the kiss happened.
And it was like lovely magic.

612
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:16,120
It was just.
Lovely sparks.

613
00:28:16,120 --> 00:28:18,920
There was wee sparks and and
then it was so cute because

614
00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:22,520
after we had our little smooch,
he goes, oh God, you're a good

615
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:24,120
kisser too.
And.

616
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:28,440
It was so sweet, so melting.
We had another little smooch and

617
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:31,520
then we both parted ways and
went down to our tree and but

618
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:34,400
you know all the stations are
different and this happened to

619
00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:37,800
be 1 where you know you could
see through to the other side.

620
00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:40,840
Oh yeah, so.
We both walked down, I wasn't

621
00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:43,680
even paying attention and I look
over and we're literally

622
00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:45,960
standing right opposite each
other.

623
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:48,440
It literally a movie.
This is so cinematic.

624
00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:52,040
It was so like magic, like you
know why I used the word?

625
00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:54,960
Yeah, I can imagine it in my
head and it's just, it's lovely.

626
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:58,320
It was just so pleasant.
Yeah, I think that's the word

627
00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:01,800
pleasant.
And, you know, after a year of

628
00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:03,920
not dating, I was like, oh,
damn.

629
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:07,040
OK, OK.
This could be this could be a

630
00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:08,480
good life.
Not with him.

631
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:11,200
I just mean dating in general.
Right, like it gives you hope

632
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:14,720
for something.
Else it was like a a faith, a

633
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:19,680
faith and sparing story.
So it it gets even cuter.

634
00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:23,560
So next thing he texts a picture
of me sitting on the platform.

635
00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:27,720
Oh stop, I know.
Oh my God, I'm melting now.

636
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:30,840
It was so melty.
And then I text a picture of him

637
00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:31,840
back.
Oh my God.

638
00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:35,480
And then the trains come and we
get on the trains and we go in

639
00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:38,800
opposite directions.
And at this point I realize it's

640
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:42,600
like 2:00 AM.
So that early thing really

641
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:44,000
worked out well.
It really worked.

642
00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:45,800
Out.
Well he got like a whole 4 hours

643
00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:47,960
of sleep.
Not if his flight left at six.

644
00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:51,120
He got two hours of sleep.
Maybe yes, maybe yeah.

645
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:52,800
Or like 90 minutes.
Well, no, I think he had to be

646
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:54,560
there by 6:00, so I think he got
a solid.

647
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:55,000
Four.
OK.

648
00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:56,880
All right.
Yeah, let's, let's not give him

649
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:59,760
too much credit.
So we go in our opposite

650
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:06,360
directions and I get on the the
train and again, the magic just

651
00:30:06,360 --> 00:30:10,560
continues like this sort of
intoxicated on something.

652
00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:14,880
Guy comes up and he's like, I
want to draw you like one of

653
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:19,480
your French girls.
Yeah, I I'm like, it is February

654
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:21,960
in New York.
Like I'm all like wrapped up.

655
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:25,720
And yeah, I was like, OK, fill
your boots.

656
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:27,280
That's that's an Irish thing.
Go.

657
00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:29,400
Ahead it's I like it.
Fill your boots.

658
00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:32,040
Fill your boots.
And so he drew me.

659
00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:35,840
I have to add that this sketch
looked nothing like me.

660
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:37,520
Do you have it?
I do.

661
00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:39,800
I have it up in my office
because it was just such a good

662
00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:41,920
memory of a good night.
OK, I'm going to swing by your

663
00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:44,240
office sometime and see.
Yeah, you have to see it because

664
00:30:44,520 --> 00:30:47,840
I have an overly enlarged
forehead in this picture.

665
00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:50,160
And I don't think my forehead is
normally large.

666
00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:52,240
It's very normal sized.
It's just average.

667
00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:55,360
Like, yeah, it was my teeth.
That would be another story, but

668
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:59,200
it was the forehead.
So he, yeah, he drew this

669
00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:03,720
picture and I changed trains and
got my other little train and,

670
00:31:03,880 --> 00:31:06,000
you know, I just floated back to
my hotel.

671
00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:10,040
Of course I was like, what a
great night like that was just.

672
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:12,160
Lovely.
I'm happy from the inside out

673
00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:14,760
just hearing about this right?
Yeah, it was a good time.

674
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:18,600
It was a good time.
And I think we even like text.

675
00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:21,760
Like, are you home?
OK, It's always hot when they

676
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:22,360
text.
Are you?

677
00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:25,720
Oh my God, yes.
Like dudes, if you're listening,

678
00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:29,080
hottest thing you can literally
do.

679
00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:30,760
Right.
It's like the tiniest bit of

680
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:34,760
effort, but it feels so good.
It's that like protective energy

681
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:36,880
we talk about.
I know we've talked about this

682
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:38,640
before.
It's healthy masculinity.

683
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:43,360
Yes, love me some of that.
So yeah, I'm just like floating

684
00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:47,400
happy, happy.
He goes off to Utah, I finish my

685
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:53,040
trip and you know, we plan a
diet for Utah and I'm like Oh my

686
00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:56,720
God, this is so fun wow.
And again, like days later,

687
00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:58,320
right?
Like 2 days later.

688
00:31:58,320 --> 00:31:59,920
Yeah.
And I just want to emphasize

689
00:31:59,920 --> 00:32:04,040
again that this was fun so fun.
I did not want to marry this

690
00:32:04,040 --> 00:32:06,480
man, No of.
Course that was never on the

691
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:08,000
table.
Never on the table.

692
00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:09,640
Just a fun time.
Very different lives.

693
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:13,600
Yeah, like, yeah.
So I get back to Utah.

694
00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:15,840
Well, you know this because we
were actually supposed to double

695
00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:18,040
date.
Oh, that's right, I forgot about

696
00:32:18,040 --> 00:32:18,960
that.
Remember that.

697
00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:20,800
I do.
I do.

698
00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:23,800
And his skiing buddy flicked.
Yeah, spoiler alert, it did not

699
00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:25,720
happen.
No, I was open to that

700
00:32:25,720 --> 00:32:28,320
possibility.
And you were so gracious about

701
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:30,360
it all, so thank you.
Oh, of course.

702
00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:34,280
Because they they had lost their
their preparation streak by this

703
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:35,920
stage, it was very.
Haphazard.

704
00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:37,200
Yeah, it had kind of fallen
apart.

705
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:39,800
And in their defense, they did
get trapped in a snowstorm up

706
00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:41,840
the mountain that.
Day Oh, that's right, the Canyon

707
00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:44,840
was having issues.
There were factors so we'll,

708
00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:49,160
we'll give them a pass.
But I I had a date with him that

709
00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:52,040
night and then we actually
continued to have, we had like 3

710
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:54,040
dates and they were all
delightful.

711
00:32:54,040 --> 00:32:55,960
Oh my God.
All delightful.

712
00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:57,920
Amazing.
So nice.

713
00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:03,280
And then we had one more date
before he left and they kind of

714
00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:04,880
low key went to shit.
I'm not going to lie.

715
00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:07,400
Oh boy.
Yeah, it's a it's a long story,

716
00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:10,360
so we don't need to get into it,
but it didn't end well.

717
00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:12,680
Oh, it's so disappointing.
And it had been a really

718
00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:14,360
pleasant night.
And then it just got like.

719
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:17,000
Weird.
Like super awkward.

720
00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:18,960
Super weird.
Well, and I just feel like like

721
00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:22,000
he shoved me at the door and I
was like standing outside of my

722
00:33:22,000 --> 00:33:26,440
own at like 3:00 in the morning
waiting on an Uber.

723
00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:29,760
It took 13 minutes to come and
it was like 16°.

724
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:32,520
Oh my God, that's just horrible.
Wow.

725
00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:35,200
That's not so fun.
I will give it to him though.

726
00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:39,720
He he text me all the way home
and he was like, OK, that just

727
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:41,240
got weird.
I was like, thank you for

728
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:44,960
acknowledging.
And then he was like, I want to

729
00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:47,480
fix this.
Like I, I leave.

730
00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:49,600
He wasn't leaving the next day,
but he had planned he was

731
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:51,880
leaving the next day.
He was like, can we just get

732
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:55,040
like 1/2 hour to see each other
in person?

733
00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:58,600
And I do get a little defensive.
I'm like, no, you're dead to me

734
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:00,200
now.
I like, don't ever talk to me

735
00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:02,120
again.
My little heart is hurt.

736
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:04,040
That is fair, Yeah, after the
way he.

737
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,280
Treated.
I felt very tender, yeah.

738
00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:09,880
Like, I wasn't mad, I was sad.
Yeah, it's such a disappointment

739
00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:12,840
after all these, like, fun,
magical little dates, and then

740
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:15,560
suddenly he's like, shoving you
out the door and, like, making

741
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:17,520
you wait outside for an Uber.
Gross.

742
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:19,560
And also super gross.
He was like, well.

743
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:22,840
You flipped out and left.
I was like I do not remember it

744
00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:26,040
being that way but OK.
You know what?

745
00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:27,719
Here's the flip side of those
millennials.

746
00:34:27,719 --> 00:34:30,000
They're so fragile.
Yes, they're really emotionally

747
00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:31,440
fragile.
There was fragility.

748
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:33,159
Happening.
I mean, maybe that's men in

749
00:34:33,159 --> 00:34:36,120
general, but yeah, I don't know.
I feel like I don't get quite

750
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:38,600
the same fragility with our Gen.
X colleagues.

751
00:34:38,719 --> 00:34:40,120
That's fair.
Maybe.

752
00:34:40,120 --> 00:34:42,280
They're a little, little more
hardened by life.

753
00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:44,800
Yeah, right.
Like we were.

754
00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:48,679
We grew up feral, right?
We don't need a jacket in

755
00:34:48,679 --> 00:34:51,639
winter.
Yeah, yeah, some of that.

756
00:34:51,639 --> 00:34:54,040
So, you know, you take the good
with the bad, you take the good

757
00:34:54,040 --> 00:34:55,760
with the bad.
But I bought him a little gift

758
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:58,120
and stuff because it happened
his birthday and but he didn't

759
00:34:58,120 --> 00:35:00,160
even like open it and stuff.
So it was just weird.

760
00:35:00,720 --> 00:35:02,560
Anyway, we did meet, we did
resolve.

761
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:05,360
It was actually really a
positive experience for me

762
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:07,280
because I was like, Oh my God,
look at that.

763
00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:09,360
Like you can repair.
Yes.

764
00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:11,680
And it was actually like a
really nice experience.

765
00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:13,240
We kept in touch, blah, blah,
blah.

766
00:35:13,240 --> 00:35:14,640
You're like, where is this
going?

767
00:35:15,080 --> 00:35:18,600
So like a couple of weeks later,
I was weirdly going back to New

768
00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:23,800
York on another trip.
And so, you know, we were

769
00:35:23,800 --> 00:35:27,400
chatting, send little voice
notes, but there was definitely

770
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:29,120
like a shift.
There was an edge.

771
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:32,400
There was a shift, Yeah.
And so I was like, I feel a

772
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:34,320
shift.
Like, are are we cool here?

773
00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:36,800
Because I was, like, extending
my trip to hang out with him,

774
00:35:37,280 --> 00:35:38,160
boy.
Yeah.

775
00:35:38,160 --> 00:35:41,840
So you kind of want to know.
Yeah, so closer to the time we

776
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:44,080
talk about logistics and I'm
like, oh, I'm going to book an

777
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:45,680
Airbnb.
I'm deciding where to book it,

778
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:47,520
like near you, near here, blah,
blah, blah.

779
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:50,040
And he was like, well, why don't
you just come stay with me?

780
00:35:50,720 --> 00:35:54,840
And I was not going there at all
there because, you know, it

781
00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:56,360
just, it just felt a little too
soon.

782
00:35:56,640 --> 00:35:59,520
And then I was like, you know
what, sure, it's like 2 nights

783
00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:02,280
or whatever.
Yeah, turned out it was three

784
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:05,680
nights because my flight was
like first thing Monday morning

785
00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:07,520
to get back in time for work and
all that.

786
00:36:08,560 --> 00:36:13,200
And I told him this and it was,
there was just silence.

787
00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:15,960
Wait, what?
Like I, he was like, confirm

788
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:18,080
your deets that you're going to
be here.

789
00:36:18,720 --> 00:36:21,160
And I, I said, oh, it's actually
three nights.

790
00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:23,840
And it just went to crickets.
Oh, no.

791
00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:29,080
So I was like, is everything OK?
Like a couple of hours later and

792
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:30,960
he goes.
It's just that that feels like a

793
00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:34,360
really long time.
Oh my God, he's the one that

794
00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:35,880
offered.
I know.

795
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:38,960
And I was like, OK, well, when
were you going to tell me?

796
00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:41,040
I think that was more what
bugged me.

797
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:43,240
I was like, well, when when were
you going to say that?

798
00:36:43,240 --> 00:36:48,360
Like was I going to get there or
you know, And so anyway, we

799
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:51,680
talked through it again and I
said, look, I'm just, I'm just

800
00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:53,440
going to extend my hotel.
Like it's fine.

801
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:55,400
I just.
Yeah, I was getting weird.

802
00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:57,040
It's uncomfortable at that
point.

803
00:36:57,040 --> 00:36:57,880
Yes.
Yeah.

804
00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:00,440
You don't want to be staying
somewhere where you're not sure

805
00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:02,800
you're wanted.
Yeah, so awkward.

806
00:37:02,920 --> 00:37:05,720
I'm like, we'll hang out, but
I'm just going to kind of make

807
00:37:05,720 --> 00:37:06,840
my own plans.
Yeah, good.

808
00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:14,200
So I did that and wrapping this
up real quick, the abrupt end, I

809
00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:16,200
get to New York and I haven't
heard from him.

810
00:37:16,720 --> 00:37:20,920
So I'm sitting at this big fancy
manchy dinner and I'm, I, I, I

811
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:25,160
text him something a little
snarky there that is a little

812
00:37:25,160 --> 00:37:27,960
snarky.
And he write back.

813
00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:29,880
He writes back and he goes,
wait, what?

814
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:33,240
Are you in New York?
No like.

815
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:36,120
Are you shitting me?
Like it was a revelatory

816
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:38,720
experience.
Oh my God, so he just played

817
00:37:38,720 --> 00:37:42,280
stupid.
So bear in mind that I had

818
00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:45,600
extended this trip.
Yeah, you'd been talking about.

819
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:50,200
This after weeks of like
literally non-stop travel, which

820
00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:52,360
Side Story also got shingles in
the middle of it.

821
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:57,560
So Oh my gosh, my God, like,
please, I just I want to go

822
00:37:57,560 --> 00:37:58,720
home.
You know, when you're at that

823
00:37:58,720 --> 00:38:00,360
point, we were like, I want to
go.

824
00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:03,560
Home, honey.
So I am like, are you fucking

825
00:38:03,560 --> 00:38:06,440
shitting me?
Like I just what the fuck?

826
00:38:06,440 --> 00:38:08,800
OK, cool.
But then it gets worse because

827
00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:11,400
he's like, I just forgot you
were coming, what's the big

828
00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:12,960
deal?
What?

829
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:14,840
And I was like, what's the big
deal?

830
00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:17,160
Yeah, and Sir.
You invited me to stay with you,

831
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:20,480
then rescinded that invitation
sort of in 1/2 assed weird

832
00:38:20,480 --> 00:38:22,800
avoidant way and then
completely.

833
00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:25,000
It just slipped your mind
completely.

834
00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:28,240
Like how would you feel in this
circumstance?

835
00:38:28,440 --> 00:38:30,760
Do you feel wanted?
Do you feel desired?

836
00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:34,600
I would feel fucking furious is
what I would feel, yes.

837
00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:39,240
I was just like, OK, then here,
here we are.

838
00:38:39,240 --> 00:38:43,000
And, you know, he was defensive
and like, it's not a big deal.

839
00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:45,280
I was like, it kind of is.
It is a big.

840
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:47,760
Deal like maybe this is where
the age is showing here.

841
00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:51,200
So Yikes.
So yeah, we kind of just I was

842
00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:52,960
like, well, I guess I'll make my
own plan.

843
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:56,840
So like a book to show, like,
you know, planned little trips

844
00:38:56,840 --> 00:39:00,280
for myself.
And then the next night, so

845
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:04,280
night before I leave and we sort
of restart again because he is a

846
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:06,520
good human like I, he is a nice
guy.

847
00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:09,680
Like I, I would have a drink
with him again, just just for

848
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:11,760
old time's sake, OK, not going
down the fun road.

849
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:15,640
And he said, I guess I didn't
realize you like me so much.

850
00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:18,160
And that just gives me such a
ick.

851
00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:22,520
EW EW EW EW no.
It's like buddy, no buddy, we

852
00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:23,600
were both having.
Fun.

853
00:39:23,600 --> 00:39:25,160
I don't like that for you at
all.

854
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:28,040
No, and that This is why I
emphasized that this was never

855
00:39:28,040 --> 00:39:31,000
more than fun.
This is like, it may not be

856
00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:34,400
gaslighting, but it's kind of
gaslight adjacent, yes.

857
00:39:34,920 --> 00:39:36,800
Because this is not the point,
right?

858
00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:38,320
Are we supposed to go?
No.

859
00:39:38,320 --> 00:39:41,440
Well, I didn't like you, but I I
made out with you a lot in that

860
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:43,120
parking lot because I didn't
like you that much.

861
00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:44,560
I was just humoring you.
Yeah.

862
00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:46,760
No, stop it.
Like, is that not the point?

863
00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:50,680
That's gross.
So I was like, OK, like, no,

864
00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:53,760
gross.
Then we sort of make amends and

865
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:56,080
he's he's like, well, look at us
being stupid.

866
00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:57,520
We could have been having a
drink together.

867
00:39:57,520 --> 00:39:59,600
And I was like, I know.
So.

868
00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:02,720
He's quote, UN quote us doing a
lot of work in that sentence, us

869
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:05,640
being stupid.
Excuse me?

870
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:08,360
I love that us doing a lot of
work.

871
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:12,520
Yes, the royal, we the royal we
was coming out.

872
00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:14,680
So I was like, well, what about
tonight?

873
00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:19,320
And he said I have a birthday
party and I have the assignment

874
00:40:19,320 --> 00:40:21,040
to bring cupcakes.
So that won't work for.

875
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:23,480
Me.
The cupcake excuse, yes.

876
00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:27,600
So at that point I was like,
Jesus, no, OK, bye.

877
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:30,760
We're all done here, yeah?
So we settled on brunch the next

878
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:33,080
morning and then I woke up and I
thought, you know what?

879
00:40:33,240 --> 00:40:36,800
I just want to go home.
So I changed my flight on Delta.

880
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:40,880
I went and find myself the best
egg sandwich I've ever had in my

881
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:43,240
life.
And and then I just went home.

882
00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:45,800
You know, that sounds more
satisfying than brunch with this

883
00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:46,440
man.
It was.

884
00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:48,760
It was at this point, it was
pretty satisfying.

885
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:51,720
So yeah.
Wow, that got long.

886
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:54,640
That was like an epic journey.
It was Odyssey.

887
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:56,560
You know what I'm eating?
Yeah, right.

888
00:40:56,560 --> 00:40:58,840
It was like the mythic cycle,
right?

889
00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:01,240
We experienced all the things
the.

890
00:41:01,240 --> 00:41:05,080
Heroes, heroes journey, right?
Some Campbell is happening here,

891
00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:07,680
right?
There's the call to adventure,

892
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:09,640
right?
Like we could probably put all

893
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:12,240
the parts together.
We, we and I experienced the

894
00:41:12,240 --> 00:41:14,400
whole gauntlet so.
You sure did.

895
00:41:14,400 --> 00:41:16,240
Journey to the Underworld.
Journey to the Under.

896
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:20,840
But you know what?
I will always maintain that that

897
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:23,920
first state was magic.
It sounded it really was.

898
00:41:23,920 --> 00:41:27,000
And you know what?
Despite the shitty sequel, I'm

899
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:30,800
really happy for you that that
happened because you know what?

900
00:41:30,800 --> 00:41:32,400
Like, I have experienced this as
well.

901
00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:35,760
Like, sometimes even if a man is
going to be stupid and

902
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:38,160
everything goes to shit, yeah,
you do have those moments where

903
00:41:38,160 --> 00:41:40,680
you're like, OK, maybe.
Yes, it's possible.

904
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:41,440
Possible.
Yes.

905
00:41:41,440 --> 00:41:44,720
Like this human connection where
you're both into it and like,

906
00:41:44,720 --> 00:41:46,640
sharing this wonderful
connection.

907
00:41:46,960 --> 00:41:48,360
That is possible.
Yeah.

908
00:41:48,360 --> 00:41:51,800
And I think it gives us hope.
It does, and it really did.

909
00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:55,320
Like I was just like, God, that
was so good to feel that

910
00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:58,680
connection with somebody because
it's, it's a little bit rare.

911
00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:01,160
It happens, but you know, it's
rare.

912
00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:04,080
And so, you know, hat to hat tip
to him.

913
00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:06,600
I, I, I honor that space of
that.

914
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:07,840
Magic.
Yes.

915
00:42:07,840 --> 00:42:11,800
Hat tip to the millennial in all
his good and all splendor.

916
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:15,920
All his splendor, his
magnificence, his avoidance, his

917
00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:18,800
gas lighting, his weirdness, his
awkwardness.

918
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:20,840
You know life is a rich
tapestry.

919
00:42:20,880 --> 00:42:25,360
Yeah, I I mean, he was lovely,
interesting, funny, the softest

920
00:42:25,360 --> 00:42:27,440
skin I've ever felt.
To the man Well, that's very

921
00:42:27,440 --> 00:42:28,080
nice.
Yeah.

922
00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:31,440
Yeah.
I mean, that's rare too, as we

923
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:33,320
learned from our men who don't
use.

924
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:33,920
Soap.
Soap.

925
00:42:34,720 --> 00:42:36,920
He definitely use SOAP.
That is nice.

926
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:39,800
That's a prerequisite, I feel
like, for that magic to happen.

927
00:42:39,920 --> 00:42:41,200
It's lovely.
He smelled good.

928
00:42:41,360 --> 00:42:42,840
Yeah.
All right.

929
00:42:42,840 --> 00:42:44,600
Well, I feel like we're running
a little long.

930
00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:47,120
Do you want to wrap this up and
do a Part 2 because I know we

931
00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:49,560
both have some more stories.
We both have some left.

932
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:53,400
Yeah, that epic tale took a
minute, I think.

933
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:54,600
So let's do.
Part 2.

934
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:57,040
It's a little early, but I kind
of feel complete with it, like

935
00:42:57,040 --> 00:43:01,440
it was such a beautiful full
circle, you tell.

936
00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:04,480
All the emotions, right?
I laughed, I cried.

937
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:08,160
Joy.
So much anger, rage on your

938
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:10,600
behalf, we hope.
You've enjoyed coming on this

939
00:43:10,600 --> 00:43:13,880
journey with us today, today.
Thanks for listening everyone,

940
00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:14,800
as always.
Yeah.

941
00:43:15,080 --> 00:43:17,800
And TuneIn for our salty bite
later this week.

942
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:19,520
Love you.
Stay salty.

943
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:20,640
Bye bye.